National Asshole Day 2025: A Love Letter to the Unfiltered Woman

Posted for: National Asshole Day (because yes, it’s a thing)

July 17 is National Asshole Day, and honestly? I’m here for it. Not because I’m a jerk (well, not always), but because there’s something deeply liberating about embracing your unfiltered, fully-expressed self—especially when you’ve spent a lifetime being told to play nice, tone it down, or smile more.

Imagine my surprise discovering Assholes get a day for themselves! It takes a tremendous amount of effort to be an asshole, and that effort really shouldn’t go unnoticed. Whether it’s a friend, family member, co-worker, or that tramp at Marshall’s that took the candle you were about to grab, and let’s not forget the person in the 15-items-or-less checkout line with 23 items and no shame who admits to NOT having a rewards phone number and decides that is the exact moment they want to sign up?

There comes a moment in every woman’s life—usually around the time you’ve had your last straw and your iced coffee’s gone warm—when you realize:
You’re DONE.
Done with the drama. Done with the guilt. Done with people who treat your time, your boundaries, and your sanity like a clearance item.

“Sometimes it’s hard to set boundaries, but it is a necessary practice”

So, in honor of National Asshole Day, here are 5 signs that you’ve officially had enough of people’s BS—and have entered your zero-tolerance era.

1. You Leave Messages on “Read”… Without the Guilt

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace. If someone’s vibes are off, their texts stay unanswered and your energy stays intact. Period.

2. You’ve Started Saying “No” Without a PowerPoint Presentation

You used to overexplain every “no.” Now? One word. Two letters. That’s the whole sentence. “No” to favors you don’t want to do. “No” to emotional labor. “No” to brunch with a side of shade.

3. You’ve Unfollowed, Blocked, or Muted Without Warning

You’re not announcing it. You’re not leaving a dramatic message. You’re just out.
The block button isn’t petty—it’s self-care.

4. You Recognize Gaslighting in Record Time

What used to leave you spiraling for days now barely registers. You can spot manipulation in 0.2 seconds and respond with silence, sass, or strategic distance.
You don’t argue—you exit.

5. You Don’t Feel Bad for Choosing Yourself

You’ve been the fixer. The “nice one.” The one who made excuses for everyone else’s behavior. But now? You’re choosing yourself. And if that makes you “difficult,” “cold,” or “a b*tch”?
So be it.