So, you wake up feeling like you’ve been run over by a truck, but you get up anyway. Why? Because that’s what we do, right? Today, let’s get real about why taking a mental health day isn’t just okay—it’s crucial. And NO, you’re not lazy for needing one.
First, Let’s Talk About “Lazy”
Dictionary.com says lazy means:
Tending to avoid work or exertion.
My version: I’m avoiding it because I’m tired AF and it’s not a priority. If it bothers you, by all means, do it yourself.
Characterized by idleness or inactivity.
My version: I need peace, quiet, and 42 uninterrupted minutes of Dateline. Hand me the remote and walk away.
Slow-moving; sluggish.
My version: Yes, I’m sluggish. I’m tired AF, and I’m NOT apologizing for it.
We’ve All Heard It
At some point, someone has called you lazy—or maybe you’ve thrown it at someone else. In my “young and formative” years, I had my lazy moments, and my mom was on my ass about it. Back then, I thought she was the “meanest person ever.” Spoiler: she was right.
Adult life has since smacked me upside the head, and honestly? I only wish I had time to be lazy.
For women, “slowing down” feels illegal. If we stop for even a minute, we convince ourselves the world will collapse—the laundry won’t get folded, kids won’t get where they need to go, and yes, the dogs will get fed but not by us, so clearly, chaos will ensue. And heaven forbid we rest without guilt? No wonder we’re walking around like zombies in cute shoes.
What Exactly Is a Mental Health Day?
Smart people take them. Other people say they “need” them but never do.
It’s a day you take for you. That means a break from work, your spouse, kids, friends, and anyone else who demands your time and energy.
You benefit because you get the rest you need. They benefit because you’re less likely to snap at them for existing. Everybody wins.
When you actually give yourself that time, here’s what happens:
Your shoulders drop from your ears.
That headache you’ve been nursing for a week eases up.
You might even smile.
You get more done afterward because you’re not running on fumes.
How to Plan One (Without the Guilt)
Don’t overthink it—just take the damn day.
Take yourself to breakfast, lunch, dinner—or just for coffee or ice cream.
Grab a book, tablet, or craft project and head to the park for some vitamin D.
Book a massage. I like Sunday nights so I start my week not feeling like a tangled ball of Christmas lights.
Go somewhere your family hates so they won’t follow you. For me, that’s Barnes & Noble. If I say I’m going there, my husband and daughter (both degree-holding non-readers—explain that to me) say “BYE.” Bam. Instant hooky hours.
Schedule a mani/pedi for guaranteed “do not disturb” time.
PUT. THE. PHONE. AWAY. Doom scrolling doesn’t count as self-care.
Closing Thoughts
Repeat after me: “My mental health matters.”
Don’t let guilt talk you out of recharging. Your partner doesn’t feel guilty “going out with the guys” or, in my husband’s case, making his 47th trip to “Detail Garage” for more car foam wash. Your kids disappear into their rooms for hours without a second thought.
So why the hell should you feel bad for taking time for yourself?
You’re welcome. 💋
💬Your Turn
Have you ever taken a mental health day? What did you do—or not do? Tell me in the comments or DM me. And if it’s been too long, schedule one right now. Your sanity will thank you.